Friday, October 16, 2020

MUM'S FUNERAL IS TODAY





TODAY WE SAY GOODBYE TO MUM.

First up this morning Ron and I will head out and gather up all the food and so on that I've ordered, and take it around to Ron's Daughter's home.

We are having the 'refreshments' after the funeral there.

Then we will come back home and take a breather, before getting ready to attend the funeral.

I am DREADING today.  I try to avoid funerals like the plague. (Or Covid-19 now days. 😏)

But... I can't get out of it... so there will be lots of deep breaths, and lots of tears no doubt.

Shame you can't hit 'FAST FORWARD' on days like this.

ONWARD...

6.37 pm:  And we are finally home.

It's been a very busy day.  

But everything has gone like clockwork.

Ron and I gathered up all the food and drink and took it to Diane's.

Then home to prepare for the funeral.

THE FUNERAL:  Went exactly as I hoped.  

And I did NOT lose my shit.  Sure, I cried a bit, but NOT over the top, lose my shit sort of crying.

So relieved I held it together for the most part.

After the 'refreshments', Richard, Maxine and I went down to the beach, where I FINALLY got to stand on the beach and dip me toes in the water.

ABOVE:  See?  Toes in the sand.

I will show you a couple more... 'toes in water'... tomorrow.  And I'm smiling!  

But right now ...  I have laid my Mum to rest, and can relax and start living my 'NEW NORMAL'.

53 comments:

  1. Yep, today will go very slow
    ( watching the clock) many tears will happen today for sure.

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  2. Thinking of you all as you farewell mum today. Yes there will be heaps of tears but let them flow. Fill your mind with all the wonderful memories of mum.

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  3. I will be thinking of you. Even though you dread it, I hope you find some comfort in the gathering for your Mum.

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  4. A difficult day for sure. Cry all you need to but have a laugh as you remember the good times. Comfort yourself in the knowledge that she has no more pain and left this life held by the two people she loved the most.
    You have hundreds of people thinking of you today and sending you warm, supportive hugs. Take strength from us.

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  5. You will continue to be in my thoughts today ❤

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  6. Thinking of you Chris, there in spirit, wish I could be there for you in body also xx

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  7. Anonymous9:36 AM

    There are many people, all over the world, thinking of you and your family today, and sending you the strength to get through the next difficult hours, days and months.

    Take comfort in the knowledge that you did the very best you could for your dear Mum, and that she is no longer in pain.

    A Fan in Canada

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  8. I will be thinking of you, it will be a hard day but how lovely for you to be there to celebrate your Mum's life.

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  9. Such a sad day, you will get through it, my condolences to you and your family. Jess from Adelaide

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  10. Thinking of you today Chris xxx

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  11. Thinking of you today Chris xx

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  12. Cry all you need to Chris. Funerals are the chance to replace the memories of the last few weeks at the forefront of your mind with a lifetime of good memories. The old moo will be looking down on you with love.

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  13. Sending you love and big hugz, Chris xx

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  14. Kiwionholidays12:12 PM

    💐🌷🌷🌹🌹🌹💓💓💓

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  15. Anonymous12:29 PM

    Standing behind you all virtually supporting 💙 George's Mum.

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  16. Jamie M.12:30 PM

    Much love to you and your family Chris. x

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  17. It will be a tough day for sure. But, it's a necessary tough. People all over the world are keeping you in their thoughts today whether you have met or not.

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  18. Sandy in the USA1:34 PM

    So very sorry to read that your mum had passed on. RIP. You are a brave girl that's for sure.

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  19. Anonymous1:41 PM

    Hugs for today Chris, xxxxx Sarah

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  20. Anonymous2:25 PM

    Hope your Mum has a beautiful send off 💕

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  21. Thinking of you today and sending you hugs ❤️ Kristin xx

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  22. Thinking of you today. Paula

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  23. Hi dear Chris
    Thinking of you today I’m at work and will stop at 4 pm to say a prayer xxx
    My love and thoughts to you today,
    Moe Mai ra
    Arohamai ra
    Sharon xx

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  24. Kiwionholidays4:39 PM

    💐💐💐🌹🌹🌹
    Kia Kaha

    Peacefully sleeping now Chris

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  25. Kiwionholidays4:39 PM

    💐💐💐🌹🌹🌹
    Kia Kaha

    Peacefully sleeping now Chris

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  26. What a lovely service ...I watched it at 10 PM "Texas time"- you and all of your "lovely Mum's" family and friends are in my thoughts-
    Barb Brownlee

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  27. A beautiful service Chris.

    Southgirl. xo

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  28. What a beautiful service. Thank you for sharing.

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  29. Anonymous6:38 PM

    Thinking of you Chris. It was a beautiful service, thank you for sharing it with us. RIP old moo, you will be forever in our hearts and prayers.
    Kym/Australia

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  30. Anonymous6:58 PM

    Christina, my cuzzy in Melbourne, your words today for Granny were spot on 💙💜 xx
    thanks cuzz
    #Lacy 💙

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  31. A lovely service for your Mum Chris.
    Sleep peacefully Old Moo.

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  32. such a sad day, hope you are holding up OK xxxxxx

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  33. Thanks Lacy xxx
    #Christina in Melbourne

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    1. Anonymous8:27 PM

      You're Welcome Cuzz xx 💙💜
      #Lacy 💙

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  34. What a lovely tribute to your beautiful Mum. I stopped work at 4pm to watch. Stew wrote such a lovely eulogy and I loved your niece Christina's letter to your Mum - so beautifully worded. I know in the ideal world you would have Stew, your children and grandchildren sitting there beside you today, but I know they will all have been with you in your heart, and be so proud of how you have supported your Mum and Ron over recent weeks. *Big hugs* ... time now to take some time out to reflect on the wonderful memories your Mum has left you with and refocus on looking after yourself. I know your Stew and your NZ family will be looking forward to seeing you again soon xx

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    1. Anonymous8:25 PM

      Dam straight can't wait to see Mumma 💙💙💙

      you did an amazing job Mum, being there for Ron and Granny in her final stages xx
      We are all so very very proud of you as we all know how hard it will have been for you all xx 💙💜
      Was a beautiful Service For Granny 💙💜💚

      #Lacy 💙

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  35. Thinking of you during this difficult time, and sending strength and love.

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  36. Beautiful service Chris, thankyou for sharing it,time now for you to take time out for you and just reflect on everything, Sending lots of hugs.

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  37. Lovely service Chris xxx

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  38. Thinking of you on this hard day

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  39. Anonymous9:09 PM

    Yeaaaa Mumma got to the Beach 🏖 💙💜 😇👌🙏
    #Lacy 💙

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  40. Such a beautiful service, thank you for allowing us to be apart of it. In a weird way i felt like i was there as the camera man streaming it is my cousin. Take care of you, happy to see made it to the beach. Xx

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  41. Anonymous9:33 PM

    Lovely service Chris. Your Mum would be so very proud of the daughter you are, Jo x

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  42. Anonymous9:34 PM

    What a lovely service Chris, the eulogy was beautiful. -
    Ally S. Melbourne

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  43. Anonymous9:34 PM

    A beautiful and moving service, and very touching tributes from Stew and Christina. It's my Mum's 2 year anniversary this week and I shed a few tears with you all. You did Mum proud Chris, and glad you got to the beach. Wishing you strength and comfort in the days ahead until you can rejoin your loving family.
    Kind regards
    Jane G

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  44. Anonymous9:35 PM

    So glad today is over for you I hope you sleep well tonight and tomorrow is a new start

    Dee

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  45. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time. With deepest sympathy. Take care in the coming weeks and months.

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  46. A beautiful heartfelt service,

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  47. That was a beautiful service! I loved the eulogy and the tributes by Christina and Maxine. I'm so sorry you had to go through this during Covid restrictions and couldn't all be there.

    I have to say, the little bit at the end where you kept checking through the curtain was just you all over. It made me smile, even though you may have checking out of curiousity or disbelief!

    Much much love and solidarity on this hard day. May the next couple of weeks while you are in Australia be a time for quiet reflection, restoration and relaxation for you. You deserve it xxx

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  48. Good to hear it went well. Take care. Be well.

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  49. Sounds like the day went beautifully.

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  50. I watched the service today. beautiful and touching all that was said. Your mum would have been so proud of you Chris as you had grace and dignity all through the service. God bless.

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