It is the day before my Mum's funeral, and I have literally NOTHING to do today!
I have everything organised... right up until the service.
Sometimes it's a good thing to be so damn organised. Being busy helps keep your mind off other things.
My niece Maxine is getting her hair done this morning... she's got a bit of a 'gone wrong' dye job going on.
I might join her after that for lunch in town, and a wander around the shops (in town). I've not had a look around those shops ... YET.
I have to admit, I've kinda taken 'retail therapy' to the next level lately!
I have bought myself 'QUITE A FEW' new clothes! And shoes. Must not forget the shoes.
I DID get the other pair of shoes, that matched my white with red heart shoes. Only I got the ones that were black with a white heart. They are lovely and will 'go' with heaps of stuff that I wear.
I do hope I can STOP shopping soon! Or Stewy might crack a shit at me!
Anyway... I'm just yabbering... so I will bugger off and start me day.
ONWARD...
THE LINK FOR VIEWING A LIVE STEAM OF MUM'S FUNERAL IS:
REMEMBER: if you are in New Zealand, it will be at 4 pm!
I am going into town in an hour or so to meet up with Richard and Maxine. Until then I've just been having a quiet morning with Ron.
Reminiscing.
It is slowly clearing now though, we shall be having another stunningly beautiful day here in Coffs Harbour.
One of the neighbours, Paul; is here yakking with Ron. I know that Paul and Christina (YEP, another Christina!) will keep an eye on Ron, as they have been for years already. They are lovely, caring people.
3.49 pm: Oh my lord it's been a long few hours.
I went into town, wandered around the shops with Richard and Maxine for a few hours, then we met up at the Funeral home to view Mum again. I put lipstick on her and then Maxine said "Granny needs her glasses", so we went back to the house and got them.
BACK to the Funeral Home, put on her glasses AND BOOM! She looked like Mum/Grandma again.
YES. We felt bloody good about leaving her after that.
I plan on going to the beach after the funeral tomorrow night. It will be appropriate to walk on the beach then, IF IT'S POSSIBLE of course.
Who knows? Might not feel like it.
Since everything is organised, let yourself rest, nap during the day, watch some mindless tv, chat to your family online. Tomorrow will be exhausting so take the time to breathe today while you can.
ReplyDeleteHi Chris...I have been following you, your family, and your blog for years, and although I rarely comment, I would like to just let you know how very sad we all are to hear of the loss of you dear mom. I have always appreciated your openess, and willingness to share all parts of your life with us, the happy, the sad, and the frustrating. As readers, we cheer for your children as they grow into thier own lives, we are sad when they are not well, we adore your lovely husband, your animals, and your grandchildren, and last but not least...we admire the strength, grace, and compassion that you have shown others for years, and most recently with your mom, and with Ron. None of this has been easy on you, or your family, but just know that all of us as readers, are thinking of you, and your family daily, and we are praying for all of you, for comfort, for peace in your hearts.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you...
Michele from Florida
Well said.... You should comment more often. (smiles)
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ReplyDeleteThank you Chris for sharing the link for Mums Service tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteSouthgirl. xo
Good to know someone to keep a watch over Ron that will be a bit of ease of mind for u when u head back to nz
ReplyDeleteGlad people will be watching out for Ron.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely mum. I'm glad you were there for her final journey and that she has sent you a sign that she is ok and still with you in spirit. I'm sure you and Ron will give her a wonderful send off x
ReplyDeleteNo matter wat happens tomorrow go to the beach put your feet in the water or throw yourself in cleanse float relax sell that sea air
ReplyDeleteBlondie x
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I agree with Blondie. Go to the beach - try and get a little time on your own. I guarantee you will find a shell with a hint of blue!
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You and your family have been in my thoughts a lot this week especially today as you say goodbye to a well loved, wife, mother, grand and great grandmother. Take care.
ReplyDeleteTomorrow is going to be a "fuck" of a day. Go to the beach, walk barefoot in the water, look for shells or just sit and watch the waves roll in and reflect and remember. Take the time out just for yourself Chris.
ReplyDeleteI’m pretty sure a girl can spend a little money at a time like this, anything that helps you is OK. Jo xx
ReplyDeleteLove I'll be thinking of you tomorrow xxx
ReplyDeleteThe time between a loved on dying and the funeral is kind of surreal. The funeral will not only be a farewell but a celebration of your mother's life so while it is hard, it will be comforting. I love that picture of the beach and jetty! All the best for tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you felt you left Mum looking the way you will remember her, with her lipstick and glasses on.....sometimes it's the little things. My mum had a beautiful patchwork throw that her dear neighbour's daughter made for her, it was always on her bed at home when ahe was ill, and in the hospice. We put it with her, along with her wedding bible, when she was buried, so she had something loved and comforting on her final journey. Will be thnking of you all tomorrow. Do try to have a little walk on the beach after the service, a quiet time with just the sound of the sea to reflect and remember yourdear Mum.
ReplyDeleteKind regards
Jane G