Friday, September 25, 2020


 It's 4 am.  And I'm awake AGAIN.

Seems to be my body does not intend to adjust to Aussy Time.  Most frustrating really.

So far Mum has slept all night.

With any luck she will wake up this morning and be 'with us', unlike yesterday.

I am enjoying walking around the gardens here. And I spied something in the garden that really made me smile.

ABOVE:  A pot I gave to Mum, many, many years ago when I was a 'potter'.

So nice to see it here.  I actually miss potting sometimes.  Maybe at some point I will do a bit more, like I did when we lived in Auckland.

Right, I might just attempt to catch some more sleep before the birds start squawking!


9.29 am: And it's a much better day today ... Mum has woken, eaten, had a drink and her medications and is now napping again.

Our aim is to keep her here at home as long as possible... and we are winning for now.

It has been quite cool this morning, so I went for a walk down to the letterbox.

It's not at the end of the driveway!  It's down the road a bit... and the road is quite hilly to say the least.

But I did it, with much huffing and puffing.

ABOVE:  That bird was pulling the bark off the tree to find and eat grubs.
It was a lovely walk, even with the hills!

ABOVE: Some photos from my morning walk.  Sunrise. Mum and Ron's house. A gate to nowhere.

Being with and helping care for someone who is terminally ill is EXHAUSTING.
I don't know how Ron has managed for so long on his own.

Add to that ... my lower back is so bad I'm having to see a doctor. Looks like the earliest I can get in is next week... if even then!
It's so bad I can hardly move in the mornings, and getting dressed!  Fook.  Shame I can't walk around naked from the waist down.
PROBABLY not a good look though! 😂😆😓

I thought going for a walk this morning would help... and it kinda did for about an hour or so.  Now?  Can hardly move without pain.  Worst timing EVER to have this happen.

4 pm:  And I have a doctor's appointment for tomorrow afternoon.  Thank goodness.  Today has been rough.

ANNE IN PALMY:  The public hospital have a wonderful Palliative Care Team who are coming here most days to overview Mum's care and helping us in every way possible.  It's wonderful!

Another day done and dusted.  So tired!  Ready for bed and it's only.... 6.05 pm!  WTF?


  1. Anonymous8:08 AM

    That is an awesome pot and you are a wonderful artist. Sending fun day wishes for all of you today. May your morning be peaceful and full of love. Oh, what gorgeous gardens! You sure can tell where your neatness and tidiness comes from. XO, Ky Girl

  2. Anonymous10:34 AM

    Have a lovely day 😘 George's Mum.

  3. What a gorgeous spot. I hope to get to Coffs one day as we have friends that moved there from Sydney.
    Take care and enjoy being with Mum. This time is very precious.
    Big hugs.

  4. Anonymous1:31 PM

    It is good your Mum is comfortable, she must be so pleased you are there. The pictures are so lovely seems very peaceful there.


  5. Kiwionholidays1:51 PM

    Posted before must’ve pushed wrong button
    What a fab set of pics and lovely refreshing place to be with
    Mum and Ron,

    Good on you enjoying the peace and quiet after an awesome effort n lotsa work to get there,

    Now time to relax n Enjoy being there and making lots more happy memories for the family album

    Fab you got to the shops n back

    Take care cyber hugs to you all there 🌹💐🌹🌴
    Cheers 🥂

  6. Make that walk every day. Sounds like a lovely, bit of exercise.

  7. That photo of the gate is stunning... one to frame even! I hope your Mum is doing OK today, what a beautiful place they have.

  8. Chris, sorry about your back. Try to put some ice on it to see if that helps.

  9. Can you get to a chemist warehouse? They have TENS machines that are affordable and so helpful for back pain

  10. Anonymous5:53 PM

    I love your Mum's property. The gardens are stunning. Glad you are there safe and sound and spending time with her now.

    Re: your back, have you tried over the counter anti-inflammatory tablets? They are not as strong as prescription ones (but you can take two initially... ha!), but if it is inflammation, they would help after a day or two. Liz

  11. Easier said than done Chris but look after yourself. Not sure how it works in Aussie but is there any help you can get through something like the Cancer Society or similar?

  12. The scenery looks amazing it is great your there to help I do hope your back sorts itself out soon xoxo

  13. What an amazing place your mum and Ron have. Sorry to hear your back is so bad but glad you have an appointment with Dr tomorrow. Yes it is exhausting looking after someone with a terminal illness and alot of that exhaustion is due to the huge emotional connection. Hard though it is you, as you look back on this time you will be pleased that you had this opportunity to be with and help care for your mum. Sending Cyber hugs xxx

  14. Anonymous6:55 PM

    There isn’t anything as tiring or as rewarding. Hope your back feels better soon, Jo x

  15. Anonymous7:50 PM

    I am so sorry you've hurt yourself. Hope they can help you. It is mentally and physically daring caring for someone you love and not being able to take their pain away. But you'll be so glad you were there. Its something I'll always feel honoured that my bestfriend and my uncle both wanted me beside them till the end. Kj

    1. Anonymous11:25 PM

      Draining not daring.

  16. Anonymous8:22 PM

    stealing that last pic please 🙂
    #Lacy 💙

  17. It is good that you are there for your mum and Ron. They will be grateful for your help and company.

  18. Anonymous12:30 AM

    Chris - caring for another, such as your Mum, is exhausting and the stress and pain of it has gone
    straight to your back. I send you Calming thoughts and wishes that you can calm the nerves in your back and that you are comfortable soon. I find a hot cup of green tea helps, or a cup of hot water, will and can sooth you. Sending love from afar and a sprinkle of fairy dust. I know that sounds strange, but one of my girlfriends is a here you go. Ky Girl

  19. What a stunning place to live. Caring for the sick is both physically as well as mentally exhausting. ((Take care)) All the best.

  20. So sorry about your back pain. Hope you find some relief soon. Keeping your mum and you and Ron in our thoughts. Precious times now with your mum. Erin.

  21. oh my gosh I thought that bird was going to fly into you lol.

    Ugh those backs sure have a way of acting up at the worst times.


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