I was watching the tv the other night, when a segment came on about Loneliness. It is now considered a leading cause of 'illness' in our ageing population.
Seems thousands of older people consider themselves lonely, to the point where it affects their quality of life.
I can relate.
We have SIX ... (raised 8) ... kids and fourteen Grandkids. I didn't ever think we would be lonely. BUT most days, while Stew is at work, I'm LONELY.
I used to dread when Stew and I are REALLY OLD, because I felt sure we would be very lonely.
Your kids grow up and get their own lives, and move on from YOU.
Unless you are extremely lucky, and they actually think about you, and care about you enough to visit, ring, or just message now and then.
Of course, in this family, with a few of our kids 'estranged' from us, it's even worse.
And that is one of the reasons why we are moving!
To an area where there's more similar aged people like us, and a community where you can be around other people more. Where there are community facilities, opportunities to mix and mingle with others regularly and so on.
It's called 'future proofing' our lifestyle, and wellbeing.
I'm hanging out for the next phase of our lives to begin to be honest. Being in 'limbo' sucks.
Moving right along now... today I am going to the supermarket first thing, I need a couple more things for baking. Then home to sew. I am going to churn out as much as I can in the next couple of weeks.
My sewing machine told me (yes it can message me on screen), that it needed servicing and oil. So as soon as I feel like I have enough stock again, I'll send it in for servicing.
I had a play with my phone's camera yesterday... tried a few different setting. It's rather complicated! I am going to find the time, eventually, to watch some YouTube tutorials on how to get the most out of the camera's capabilities. But for now...
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO OUR GRIFFIN, have a lovely day, Dad and I love you to bits. 💚💙💜
And that's it for now.
I am getting up and making a move on the day.
Catch ya later.
Get a motorhome or caravan and join us grey nomads... there is a massive community of like minded people travelling around the country (many take a dog). It is one way of combating loneliness but I agree that it is a real problem now. If I was stuck at home all the time now I would go nuts and I know going forward we fully intend buying into some kind of village for that peace of mind in older age.
ReplyDeleteSorry to see you feeling lonely. I barely speak to anyone most days except hubby when he gets home from work (I go to gym at 6am every morning, oh, I have “friends” there and they are great but I choose to keep them at arms length, I know a lot about them though), I text my only child, she’s 40 in February and single, every day, just touch base and we catch up when we can and get on really well. I catch up with friends when I reach out, like today I’m having brekky with a very close friend. Mostly it’s me reaching out when I want to. I love my own company, I walk 8 k’s every day by myself, I don’t want anyone holding me up. I couldn’t think of anything worse than living in a community village, I have friends who do and they love it. I’m not here to offer suggestions except one, why don’t you contact individuals that you have met over time and go out for brekky occasionally. I note that you start things, like swimming, water aerobics, etc but then “throw the towel in” rather quickly. Or check out gyms that have “old people” classes, do something for yourself rather than hoping to meet people. I have met lots of people at the gym for example, they are my gym friends though who I see every day but keep at arms length. Everyone is different. So sorry about the long post, but it’s hard not to. And I could keep going, but it’s 5.56am and I’m late for gym 😂 Marie, Melbourne
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