tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post3741221810765789125..comments2024-03-29T20:34:38.552+13:00Comments on DIET COKE ROCKS: LET'S HAVE A BETTER DAYChris Hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03599144462630400401noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-79723571752095667022020-12-23T03:18:22.576+13:002020-12-23T03:18:22.576+13:00Firsts are tough. Hang in there. Take care. Firsts are tough. Hang in there. Take care. Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03913730942861873965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-1166340607505268022020-12-23T00:52:04.357+13:002020-12-23T00:52:04.357+13:00You are welcome. I think it is a very hard year to...You are welcome. I think it is a very hard year to have anything “extra” happen. Like we can just barely handle the regular daily stuff and if something big happens, really amplified. And the traditional methods (that we rely on in society) are not possible for many people. <br />VickieVickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-25188777385783481782020-12-23T00:48:12.588+13:002020-12-23T00:48:12.588+13:00It's very hard at Christmas time remembering l...It's very hard at Christmas time remembering lost loved ones, especially when it was so recent. We've just been to visit my Dad, giving a little help with the housework and gardening. We put some lovely red flowers (for a Christmas theme) on Mum's grave. She absolutely adored her garden, so I always spend time arranging the flowers and hoping she thinks I've done it right. Don't be surprised when the grief comes over you suddenly, it just knocks you for six sometimes when you think you're coping. You're dealing with all the crap of this year amazingly, don't knock yourself for having a good cry sometimes, then get the face on again ! You have a lovely relaxing Christmas Day to look forward to with the family. Take care of yourself.<br />jane GAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-31184757450487379052020-12-22T23:27:55.526+13:002020-12-22T23:27:55.526+13:00Thanks for the suggestions Vickie, my Dad died thi...Thanks for the suggestions Vickie, my Dad died this time last year and I am struggling. Xxx Sarah Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-70375559062681411102020-12-22T21:57:53.876+13:002020-12-22T21:57:53.876+13:0010pm just in from hanging more lights i know im no...10pm just in from hanging more lights i know im not going to be finished in time. Felicityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01302886949555051556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-50743783832347342852020-12-22T21:33:54.756+13:002020-12-22T21:33:54.756+13:00Oh that’s awesome! Can definitely see the similari...Oh that’s awesome! Can definitely see the similarities :) you don’t muck around 🤣 So sorry you’re upset this afternoon, this time of year is rough and especially after the shit you’ve had thrown at you :( Running GIRLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10427579184267614774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-81739592372207913552020-12-22T20:07:09.246+13:002020-12-22T20:07:09.246+13:00💙💙💙 George's Mum.💙💙💙 George's Mum. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-86910015363474454532020-12-22T18:15:53.025+13:002020-12-22T18:15:53.025+13:00sending you hugs while you navigate the first Chri...sending you hugs while you navigate the first Christmas without your mum 🥰Mel Gibbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08666376788645337897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-80934967847703078192020-12-22T17:33:49.014+13:002020-12-22T17:33:49.014+13:00It is good that you are grieving. Hard at the time...It is good that you are grieving. Hard at the time, but good for your mental health long term. I imagine it is a very hard year to grieve, everything is amplified. <br /><br />I am wondering if a daily release ritual might help. Maybe you should just say out loud (to her) what you wish you could. You could light a candle or take a bath or a walk and just pour it out. <br /><br />It could be writing to her. But if you were used to talking on the phone, out loud might help. <br /><br />After one of the tsunamis in the far East, they set up a phone booth for people to use to “call” their lost loved ones. And it did help people to grieve. They recorded the calls, it was a memorial thing. <br /><br />I have used Hail Mary as sort of a calming/clear my mind focus for years. A song or something like that might help too. I know you love music. <br /><br />And I wonder if for the holidays, you should have a family ritual of gathering in a circle, lighting/passing a candle and singing a holiday song as a family to your mom. <br /><br />You absolutely could do a “gift” for her. It could be in the form of a donation. Or a gift to one of her siblings. Or to a nursing home in your area. Or something in memory of her to one of your kids, different kid each year. It could be planting something somewhere. <br /><br />If your maternal grandparents/great grandparents are in a traditional grave somewhere near you, you could tend/visit those graves in memory of your mom too. Or you could use something at a local park (tree, planting, bench) as a focus place (like you would a grave) to “visit” your mom. <br /><br />VickieVickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-88700278560951812612020-12-22T16:34:40.061+13:002020-12-22T16:34:40.061+13:00I WAS referring to your Mum. You can still be a c...I WAS referring to your Mum. You can still be a caring person and yell and scream and kick the kids in the backside. Sometimes it's what they need! <br />You do deserve a medal!<br />Dogstarshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04612372396101568042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-9039624500865951352020-12-22T16:25:15.663+13:002020-12-22T16:25:15.663+13:00That is a lovely idea and I have bought a little c...That is a lovely idea and I have bought a little cow ornament in memory of my Mum, it is on our tree. Condolences on the loss of your daughter. {{{HUGS}}}Chris Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03599144462630400401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-29049480216782011222020-12-22T16:18:44.650+13:002020-12-22T16:18:44.650+13:00We buy a special Christmas decoration or have one ...We buy a special Christmas decoration or have one made each year in remembrance of our daughter who was killed in a car accident. It might be an idea for you Chris?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-8438746336500273042020-12-22T16:14:32.344+13:002020-12-22T16:14:32.344+13:00Hugs Chris xxxxHugs Chris xxxxFelicityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01302886949555051556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-81348108078955430602020-12-22T16:06:49.567+13:002020-12-22T16:06:49.567+13:00oh gosh sorry I had to comment, yea she and dad ne...oh gosh sorry I had to comment, yea she and dad never killed any of us lol as much as they would of like to, or had of pushed some of us (mainly me) back in or pulled the cord a bit tighter lol...so yea My Mum and Dad definatly desurve a bloody medal, actually specially My Dad for taking the bunch of us on...xxxxx 💙💜<br />#Lacy 💙 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-69243656102917823472020-12-22T16:02:19.831+13:002020-12-22T16:02:19.831+13:00yes you will 😊 xx
#Lacy 💙 yes you will 😊 xx<br />#Lacy 💙 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-30050547342533638642020-12-22T15:42:27.404+13:002020-12-22T15:42:27.404+13:00Oh and if you were meaning in relation to my Mum, ...Oh and if you were meaning in relation to my Mum, yes, I loved her dearly and miss her dreadfully.Chris Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03599144462630400401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-50039176682839282032020-12-22T15:25:06.769+13:002020-12-22T15:25:06.769+13:00I disagree... I can be a real crabby tart sometime...I disagree... I can be a real crabby tart sometimes! Hence one of my nicknames is 'Crabby Tart'! I'm no different from anyone else, we all have various 'faces' for various circumstances. I can't be 'nice' all the time! I have EIGHT KIDS ... that means I have had to be a disciplinarian, a referee, an advocate, and all those other hats we mothers have to wear. It's NOT all sunshine and roses that's for bloody sure! But, I can honestly say I have always tried my best to cope, because with that many children, it's not been easy, and I have made many mistakes over the years. But I never killed any of them... I need a medal. lolChris Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03599144462630400401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-21656429255839196592020-12-22T15:17:16.117+13:002020-12-22T15:17:16.117+13:00You are such a sweet and caring person. It just sh...You are such a sweet and caring person. It just shows. Dogstarshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04612372396101568042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-55620050289555055722020-12-22T15:10:07.187+13:002020-12-22T15:10:07.187+13:00All of the firsts are difficult, I share your tear...All of the firsts are difficult, I share your tears. My Mum has been gone for two Christmas now. I did her Christmas shopping for her and wrapped the presents, also wrote her cards and did a bit of decorating. Not any more. Welling up! sorry. .......Just as long as you take photo's like your pool snap, you Mother will be here, you look much like her in that pic. HUGS,<br />Merry Christmas and a Happier New Year.<br />My Piece of Earthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086566015541067711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-61056802075708954012020-12-22T15:05:57.489+13:002020-12-22T15:05:57.489+13:00My vision of her right now is of an incredibly ang...My vision of her right now is of an incredibly angry person... wishing she'd been able to do that ONE LAST THING on her bucket list! But don't worry MUM, I will get it done for you. By hook or by crook I will.Chris Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03599144462630400401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-75294137444437492962020-12-22T14:54:39.706+13:002020-12-22T14:54:39.706+13:00Firsts are always hard after losing someone. Of co...Firsts are always hard after losing someone. Of course Christmas will be bitter sweet this year but remember the good times and imagine her sitting quietly in the corner watching you all with a big smile on her face.sparklingmerlothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12600695778999486566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-20825826252385319742020-12-22T13:23:09.407+13:002020-12-22T13:23:09.407+13:00BLOGGED IT!BLOGGED IT!Chris Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03599144462630400401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-26083921837752214912020-12-22T13:16:41.665+13:002020-12-22T13:16:41.665+13:00Love your pool shot.
And as for Christmas present ...Love your pool shot.<br />And as for Christmas present wrapping I hate it too. Been lucky this year my granddaughter has wrapped everyones....except her own. Yay !! jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11000062075347416626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-48314166104558887412020-12-22T12:50:24.436+13:002020-12-22T12:50:24.436+13:00I HATE wrapping presents, they always look like a ...I HATE wrapping presents, they always look like a dogs dinner. When the kids were little Gary & would have a few wines & wrap everything on Christmas Eve, it was actually quite pleasant but of course as they got older they went to bed later & later so we would still be wrapping bloody presents at 1am!!! Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17809180814553643509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36007054.post-23088854326460873652020-12-22T12:03:10.817+13:002020-12-22T12:03:10.817+13:00Wow in that pic of Brylee you can see how much she...Wow in that pic of Brylee you can see how much she abs Keera look alike! I would love to see a pic of them at the same age alongside one another.... like you’ve got time to find an old pic 😂 Have a great day. It’s chaos here with so many jobs I should have done earlier to be ready for Xmas! Running GIRLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10427579184267614774noreply@blogger.com