A couple of weeks ago I took Brylee to Whirinaki to be assessed as her TEACHER and the Educational Psychologist decided that the reason she has struggled to make and maintain friendships was most likely due to her feeling ABANDONED by her birth mother and having very low self esteem. (I believe this was to cover the fact that their 'Circle of Friends' was a dismal failure)... anyway I digress....
Yesterday I got a phone call from the Psychologist at Whirinaki to discuss their findings after assessing Brylee and talking to me at length.
Seems they agree with ME! That Brylee does not have any issues or bad feelings which might be reflecting on her self esteem due to the circumstances surrounding how she came to be raised by Stew and Me.
They agree that her 'lack of friends' is down to her PERSONALITY more than anything else, and how she needs to learn more social skills and tolerance of others, so she can maintain friendships.
Yep... she needs to learn that in this world it's not ALL ABOUT HER and what SHE WANTS.
I feel very VINDICATED.... and soooo wish I could say "I told you so" to her teacher. It was her teacher who got this particular ball rolling in the first place.
ABOVE: Today our darling Grey Puppy (Rhino), leaves us on a plane for Wellington. He's going to a lovely new family of Mum, Dad and two teenage kids (girl and boy)... he is going to be loved to bits.
He has to be at the airport late this afternoon... so might be takeaways for dinner!
ONWARD... I've got 'stuff' to do!
TRACY: Brylee's school has already done all those 'workshops'... and Brylee was part of them too. Respectful Friendships and how to be a good friend was one of the main topic in the Senior School for the first half of this year.
I had a family come and look at the pups this morning. The woman and child LOVED THEM and wanted one right there and then. The husband? Not so sure about him. He spent most of the time here saying negative things about them. I don't know if it was a ruse or for real. Either way, he was not that nice.
ANONYMOUS: fair enough. BUT I do know my own child, and to be forced into taking her to MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES really pissed me off. I did not want to give her 'ammunition' to justify her attitude. And giving NEGATIVE behaviour lots of ATTENTION is NOT the way to go either. Until you have had 8 kids, encountered almost every crappy behaviour they can throw at you... try giving ME the right to know what I'm talking about. edit: I am talking about knowing how to deal with MY OWN KIDS HERE.
Brylee's teacher has two kids and has only been teaching for 2 years. End of.
EMILY: I tend to agree.
Rhino has gone. I took him to the airport and stayed with him until they had to take him out the back for loading... it was really hard to part with him! He was perfectly happy in his travel case though, he even went to sleep. So I hope he is fine in the plane... he should be just taking off for Wellington now (6.35pm). He is such a cuddly, gentle wee boy, I am going to miss him so much.
*sigh* TINA: you are right in one thing, I did NOT call myself an EXPERT in anything. BUT I did say I knew my OWN kid through and through, and therefore knew MORE ABOUT HER than the so called 'experts'. And I do know that even though I have/am raising 8 kids does not make me an EXPERT on problems you can encounter with kids.... but I did say I had encountered many behaviours from MY OWN KIDS... and knew how to deal with them. MY KIDS. Not yours, not any one elses. MINE. Thank you for your input, I hope it made you feel better today.
End of Day: in future I will be putting the more 'personal' stuff like today's issue on PEPSI. Then I won't ever have to justify my feelings... or put up with ANONYMOUS comments. (you may have put YOUR name?... but no link eh)